The Decided Blurters

It's strange, how some moments come alive and wash you over like a bucket of colours. You sit there, in the couch that she lovingly picked out, and consider.

Consider whether or not what you think is real.

Whether or not what you feel is real.

Whether or not it is rational.

Do all thoughts and feelings deserve to live, grow and take root in your mind? When thoughts of jealousy and injustice surface, should they be held back or just let out? For some people, these aching guts need to be spilled the moment they start to ache, in order to be sorted out. Not until everything is out there are these people ready to go on and see whether or not these mind ghosts are worth putting more effort into.

And yet, for other people, thoughts and feelings need to be considered for a while, before they are ready to surface. These people have the very handy ability of grabbing a thought before it grows and can then see whether or not it's something they need to mind.

This way, when the blurting kind meets the pondering kind, a collision is inevitable. The blurters need to have their thoughts and opinions out there in order to manage them, whilst the ponderers assume that these thoughts are the final products of careful consideration. While the blurters need to discuss in order to sort out their thoughts and come to a logical conclusion, the ponderers might easily and naturally make the mistake of assuming that these thoughts are a final product and not up for discussion.

So how do these two parts meet? The blurter will need to make it clear to the ponderer that what he/she says is just the draft of what could become a conclusion. The blurter will in this way need to ask the ponderer for help, because he/she can not come to a conclusion in his or her own head. The ponderer, in turn, need to be able to detect whether or not the blurter needs help or has come to a final conclusion. This can be a very difficult task, since many blurters are completely unaware of how they need to blurt and discuss, and easily might confuse themselves with ponderers. These are the decided blurters.

A decided blurter is completely unaware of their own inability to see things clearly in their own heads. They think that they come to the most logical and best conclusions on their own, that all their thoughts and feelings are final and justified, and can become immediately hostile when their ideas are being discussed instead of accepted. These persons face a very difficult situation, as do the people around them, and some decided blurters will never admit that their ideas need discussion, as they perceive themselves as well-reasoning and logical.

Are you a blurter? Are you perhaps even a decided blurter? Consider whether or not you need to discuss your idea, before throwing it out there.

If you want to spawn ideas that aren't up for discussion, you might want to be very careful with what ideas you actually spawn.

Or you might want to become an unquestionable dictator.

Or you might want to be alone.