Holding back ourselves
In Neils Strauss's The Game (Copyright 2005) , one of the characters - with the alias Mystery - describes how our sex drive not only reflects our urge to find a mate, but also is the key to creativity and career.
As the seducing expert Mystery goes tripping on sleeping pills, but still finds himself unable to sleep, he posts a comment in his forum - Mystery's Lounge - urging his fellow seducers not to masturbate more than once a week, since it would spoil their motivation of doing things. Real things. According to Mystery, continuous sitting at home and drooling over internet porno won't get you very far. It'll just get you depressed and keep you focused on unnecessary things like the pain of not having a 'real' sex partner.
"There is truth in what he writes" comments neurological scientist Hjalmar Nordén, "the substances released from sexual pleasure are meant to make us feel dozy, inactive and make us want to rest". Probably to keep the male and female together and create a bond between them, for future care of the to-be-born child. Perpetual over-stimulation can thus lead to general ineffectiveness, irritation and in some cases depression from the feeling that you aren't getting anywhere in your life.
For many of the expert sex-hunters, masturbation would be the same as admitting defeat and letting the world know that you no longer have the ability to attract a partner. Some people who either aren't interested in the game and the hunt or just haven't dared to step into it, see it the same way. Low confidence and uninterest keep many at home when others seek out the citiy's night life or the local barn fiesta. "Sexual saturation make people inactive and keep them from testing themselves" coninues Hjalmar with a sad smile, "whether it's on the dance floor, the social club or in their boss's office". They just give up.
One of the things Neill Strauss would like to say through The Game is probably that everyone can take a step in to the social circles and succeed. What you need is the ability to watch, listen and adapt. People who get stuck in a pattern will forget how it is to grow and evolve. If you always talk, try listening. If you always think that everyone else have better things to say than you, try thinking through your ideas and say what you feel is right. If you don't dare taking a swing on the dance floor, try a salsa course. Once you have set your mind on trying something, go through with it! Everyone will try to judge you, but do you need to take offence if a singer judges your dancing?
As the seducing expert Mystery goes tripping on sleeping pills, but still finds himself unable to sleep, he posts a comment in his forum - Mystery's Lounge - urging his fellow seducers not to masturbate more than once a week, since it would spoil their motivation of doing things. Real things. According to Mystery, continuous sitting at home and drooling over internet porno won't get you very far. It'll just get you depressed and keep you focused on unnecessary things like the pain of not having a 'real' sex partner."There is truth in what he writes" comments neurological scientist Hjalmar Nordén, "the substances released from sexual pleasure are meant to make us feel dozy, inactive and make us want to rest". Probably to keep the male and female together and create a bond between them, for future care of the to-be-born child. Perpetual over-stimulation can thus lead to general ineffectiveness, irritation and in some cases depression from the feeling that you aren't getting anywhere in your life.
For many of the expert sex-hunters, masturbation would be the same as admitting defeat and letting the world know that you no longer have the ability to attract a partner. Some people who either aren't interested in the game and the hunt or just haven't dared to step into it, see it the same way. Low confidence and uninterest keep many at home when others seek out the citiy's night life or the local barn fiesta. "Sexual saturation make people inactive and keep them from testing themselves" coninues Hjalmar with a sad smile, "whether it's on the dance floor, the social club or in their boss's office". They just give up.
One of the things Neill Strauss would like to say through The Game is probably that everyone can take a step in to the social circles and succeed. What you need is the ability to watch, listen and adapt. People who get stuck in a pattern will forget how it is to grow and evolve. If you always talk, try listening. If you always think that everyone else have better things to say than you, try thinking through your ideas and say what you feel is right. If you don't dare taking a swing on the dance floor, try a salsa course. Once you have set your mind on trying something, go through with it! Everyone will try to judge you, but do you need to take offence if a singer judges your dancing?Labels: judgement, masturbation, sex drive, sexual drive, the game
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