Fears of commitment

Relationship after relationship is falling apart all around you. Some of the 'important' break-ups turn up in your newspaper, others you hear from the street just outside your window. Amateur of relationship studies Hjalmar Nordén comments to how he is still having nightmares about his last long-term commitment.

"It was a lovely two and a half year-story with ups and downs of all their kinds. I learnt tons about myself.." he mutters something indistinguishable about girls, then continues "Either way it was an amazing experience that I hope I will never have to suffer through again if I can avoid it". He admits to having bad dreams about slipping back into relationships with old routines, bad compromises and flights from reality inside role-playing games.

"Most of it was my fault really. That's what I fear the most you know, how easy it is to escape and simply stop thinking about one's own needs within the relationship." He explains how many of his friends have done the same mistakes, "It has been done before and it will happen again; people lock up their own problems in the back of their brain, then go mad (or simply admit defeat and break up), simply because they ignore dealing with themselves and their partners." he says with a grimace.

"Remember this" he finishes, "It's not a war you are dealing with out there. It's love. And there can be two winning sides. Just make sure you are a part of your own relationship."